This is so true and such a keen observation! I noticed at gatherings that I used to be drawn as if by magnets to other victims. At first, I used to think that this was a good thing because we can help each other through our recovery and are going through the same thing. But I quickly realized that depending on where the victim is on their healing journey, we could easily retraumatize and continue to minimize, diminish, and even gaslight each other's experiences as well as continue to enable and forgive bad behavior. I've now realized that it's important to see where each individual is on their path in life and to take time getting to know them before sharing my personal life. It's something that I still falter on but hopefully will learn.